Tuesday, July 01, 2008

  • my life with a roomate

    MY LIFE WITH A ROOMATE!

     

    I met a young lady by the name of carrie and we met while I was getting councleing for my depresion of the devorce I was going through with my first wife!                             She told me she was going to be homeless soon because her real father wasn’t paying the mortgage on there property and told me he was abuseing her phisicaly. So I told her she could live with me, big mistake! I have a kind heart and I try to help people when ever I can. The christain side of me siad help this young lady, so I helped her move all her stuff into our apartment. She has more stuff then I did, I gave her my bedroom and my bed and I sleep on the couch in the living room. After about a month of living with her she showed intrest in wanting to be my girl friend. I said ok were allready living together so I gave her the chance to be my girl friend, another big mistake. About the third mounth of living together she started to abuse me phiscaly and mentally. But I had hopes of helping her change the way she treated me and asked god for help with this. I came home from getting off of work from a job I was trying to see if I can go back to work , when i opened the door I saw carie there in the kitchen with a knife to wrist. Threatening to cut her wrist she told me she couldn’t stand being alone in the apartment all by herself while I was at work. She was crying and went to slash her wrist I grabed the knife off of her before she could hurt herself, and slaped her to knock some sence into her. It was the first time I ever slaped a lady, but it got her to stop thinking about what she was about to do.

                 She told me why she wanted to do that and I told her the job I was doing I couldn’t handle so I quit it. But she tried about four other times doing the same thing, finaly I told her if she did it again I wasn’t going to stop her any more and I was going to call the hospital and have her admited into the phych ward. That stoped her from trying to do that ever again so far. About the fourth mounth of living with her and being her boy friend she introduced me to her real mother and step father. I found out she has three younger sisters and her family excepted me as part of her family. The phisical abuse from her kept getting worce, but I told her we would work on that problem. I still had hopes of helping her change that, see comeing from a abusive father she thinks that’s the only way of showing her love to someone. Well after six mounths of living together I told her she needed to get a job or get ssi like me. So she got a job at mcdonalds resteraunt and I allso got her to get a medical card from welfare and had her sing up for ssi just in case the job she was doing didn’t work out.

                    Well after working just one week she was compaining about the boss telling her what to do. I told her there was going to be somone you work with that your not going to get along with and that she would just have to deal with it. After working for mcdonalds for about a mounth, she received a lettewr from social security that she was excepted for ssi. So she asked me if it was ok to quit her job, I said as long as you have a income comeing in to help with the bills then yes you can quir if you want. So she did, it was about the eighth mounth that we were together and it was around christmass time and I thought things were getting better between us. So I went for the next step wich was to buy and engagement ring and prepose mariage to her. She was very happy about this and so was her family.

                   After being engaged to her for about two months she told me she had to go to court for fighting with her stepmother who was allso abusive to her. So I went to court with her and they gave her community service for what she did. While at community service witch was for a mounth, she met this young man who”s name was nick. But she brought this young man to our apartment telling me hes aand old friend of hers. So of cource I said hes welcome in our apartment, the second week of him comeing to visit. He brought with him some weed and found out later it was laced with lsd. He came because carrie wanted to get a tatto and she wanted me to get one to so after smoking that he gave her a rose tatto on her arm and a unicorn on her one breast. When it was my turn I was prety out of it and told him I just want one on my arm of my favorite guy gene simons of kiss. After he was done I was so tirerd and out of it I went to her bedroom to lay down. I was out like a lite, while I was sleeping the phone rang. And it was a friend of mine on the phone named nicole and she was the young lady we set nick up with as a girl freind. While on the phone with carrie and me out cold nick and carrie had sex with each other while still on the phone with my friend.

                   When I finally woke up he was leaving and she told me after he had allready left that he raped her that pissed me off of course, I took the door frame of the doorway and ripped it completely off the wall with my hands. I got a phone call from my friend nicole the next day telling me that carrie wasn’t raped that she was enjoying what her and nick were doing. And the reason she knows this she told me was that while they wer doing it together she was still on the phone with carrie and she was moaning in pleasure saying yes nick harder faster. That pissed me off, now I have a tattoo from a guy who had sex with my fiance. And to me its like he got paid for the tattos by having sex with carrie, and ill allways have that tattoo as a reminder of what my now ex fiance and nick did together. I have also had to deal with other mental abuse from her like her calling me a retard and a moron all the time, and the reason I call that mental abuse is I was calld those kind of names for most of my child hood because I was slow and was in speacil education classes. Carrie dose no house work what so ever dosent cook clean or pick any thing up either. I do all the work, I was raised to cook clean and be able to take care of myself.

                       I allso have noticed that she wasn’t takeing showers for about a week, that to me disguted me. So I told her she had to take a shower at least twice a week and told her to that she had to clean he own room. She did that for about two weeks then went back to not doing a thing but play game all day, every day! I told carrie finaly that I had enough, and wanted her to find her own place to live. I even told her counclers at MH MR and her conclers at independent living that they need to find her somewhere else to live. She cryed and tried to make me feel guilty abouy wanting her to move out. But she still abuses me mentaly and physacly, her counclers told me to press charges against her for that but I can’t do that, its my kind heart that can’t bring me to do that to her.               

                   So I called the homeles shelter in somerset pa called next step witch is where I was when my ex wife had me kicked out! But they told me that they were full and all her counclers told me was to give her time to look for a place of her own, I did that but she didn’t look or even want to move out. She thought that in time I would go back to her as a boy friend. I even asked her own family her mom and step dad if they knew of a place she could move into. They told me she is no longer welcome in there home. Because they told me that she did live with them before and she treated them like shit and would not listen to what they told her to do. Her own grand mother told me when she lived with her that she almost caused her to have a heart atach while she was living with her. So I thought of and idea I was going to show her what it was like to live on her own. I needed some time away from her so I asked my parents if I could come down to stal with them for about a month. And they knew what I was going through with her. And they said yes so I told carrie that I was going to spend some time with my family and she had to learn how to shop for groceries and keep the apartment clean while I was gone. And also cook her own food and do the dishes.

                      She had a birthday party to go to while I was at my parents house and it fell in the middle of the mounth so I asked her mom and step dad while I was away if they would take her to the birthday party of her friend who she allready told  her that she would be atending. And they told me that they would take her, I also told carrie that she could call me if she needed to, the funny thing there was she was calling me every day maybe twice a day. This one day  she called me up and told me that her mom told her she wasn’t going to pick her up for the party and me promissing her she would be able to go. I cut my stay short by two weeks and came back so I could take her to her party.             

                   Then when I took her we stoped at her parents house and she visited her sisters and I was talking to her step dad and he asked me why I was back early and I told him that carrie told me that her mom said she wasn’t going to take her and that’s why I was back early. Well he asked his wife and checked his cell phone to see if carrie called her mom and found out she lied to get me to come home to be there for her. She couldn’t handle it on her own, so I agreed to be just room mates with her as long as she pays her share of the rent. Witch she dose pay her share of the rent, my father gave me one of his three computors he had with I had to clean virusses out of and I told carrie I was bringing home a computor that she could use. So she pays for the internet and the cable in her name. But here is another funny thing she was thinking of moveing in with another guy who she was talking to on the internet. But she wanted me to give her the dresser that was here when we moved in and the bed that was given to me by my parents before I met her, and also said that I would need to haul it for her in my truck and wanted the computor that my dad gave me! I said no and she said I thought you were getting the computor for me, I said no fat chance of that happening I said you can use it not keep it.

                        Its been two and a half weeks now and I have noticed she still hasn’t taken a shower or a bath and when she dose she just sits in the tub and soaks she dosent use soap or a rag. Her room is a mess and there is boxes every where, and clothes threw around every where. Her icm concler caim to check up on her she dose that like once a mounth and she asked me how she was doing I told her about her sleeping most of the day and how her room is a mess and that she hasn’t sowered or bathed in two weeks. Her coucler told me to wake her up witch I did and she asked carrie if she could see her bedroom and she flat out told her no! then she asked her about takeing a shower or bath and told her it wasn’t any of her buisness and her icm told her that it was her buisness to make sure she is doing ok! After she went out the door I got a ear full of her saying to me why was her concler asking me about her. I told her that im sory but you stink and its not helthy not takeing and cleaning your self, she called her icm a bitch and told me to mind my own buisness.  

                      So as you can see what I have to deal with every day with my roommate and I have to wake her up every week day so she can go to peer station and to go to councling. Witch im glad she dose go to so she is out of my hair for half a day each week day.

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